Do you have any besetting bad habits, sin, or routines you find yourself in? How bad do you want to stop it? Often times people will find themselves deciding again and again to refrain from ever doing that thing again…whatever it is.
The truth is, they still don’t want it bad enough
Often times the way to trouble has a well worn path. The problem would be all but eradicated if the pathway was discarded. So you want to stop eating bad food…how about you quit buying it? Are you willing to let a friend check you on your purchases?
Accountability is a key component, and some of it is just being brave enough to scrap long held comforts of your life for the sake of improvement. It’s definitely a leap of faith, but it is a worthy one. Cut the head off the snake and kill your bad habit.
I think many of us fight to get to a place in life where we don’t have a bunch of daily obligations or commitments. We want passive income, flexible work schedules, and the vision of being about to drop everything and go somewhere. At some point in our lives, we can reach that point if we stay focused. What I’ve learned is this:
If you want to see continual, steady progress you need to be consistent.
So what is consistency in the sense I’m referring. In the realm of personal development, it means doing some of the same things everyday. It means reviewing your goals daily, it means spending time in prayer or meditation everyday, it means meeting with your coach regularly to stay on track.
As a Christian desiring to grow and become more like Jesus everyday, I need someone to regularly check in on me. Otherwise, I get lost.
So, my personal challenge to you or “homework” is set up a few things that you do every day. Get yourself into a routine that allows someone to check in with you regularly: friend, family, coach.
Trust me, if you allow yourself to drift, it will be the WRONG direction.
We are in the midst of a grinding basketball season. One night we win in dramatic Double-Overtime fashion. The next night we falter to an inferior team. The highs and lows. The ups and downs.
To me, coaching at the high school level in athletics really is paralleled to what I do as a life coach. I’m going to try to smooth out the highs and lows and make it run even. I’m going to counsel you on how to be more successful and track your progress. I’m going to be in your ear to encourage and also to challenge when necessary.
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Ever wonder where the time went? I’ve recently been coaching basketball, which means a lot less time at home. It’s my job. I signed on to do it. Unfortunately, I often use that as an excuse to not get things done at home or at work as quickly as I could.
The cost can be enormous. When you aren’t fully “at home” when you are home, you are losing closeness with your loved ones, carrying stress about all the things you haven’t completed yet, and ultimately, you will be left wondering what you did with the time you had.
Homework: Take some time to evaluate what your favorite excuses are for not getting stuff done, and strike them down. Help out around the house, I’m sure the holidays have brought some stress out of the closet for the people around you. Be a helper.
First off, as I write this I’m one view short of 100 (and this is my 20th post). Thank you for stopping by and reading my content. I hope it is helped you as a person, worker, leader, husband, wife, or student.
I have plenty of ideas about what I’d like to cover moving forward, but I thought I would put a poll up to see what else you guys would like to see. I realize I didn’t get much participation in the poll last time, so this may backfire, but I’m not scared or deterred!
So, what would you like to know more about or get some new ideas about?
Also, if any of you are interested in doing some personal coaching, feel free to contact me and we can work something out. I’m going to be pretty affordable, because this really is the beginning of my business. I may even take on a couple of you for free! Feel free to contact me with any questions as well!!
As I have mentioned before, I teach high school students. I teach a couple computer and business classes. I have learned a lot of things on the job that I never would have in a college classroom studying education theory.
One of the priceless ones is this:
Your students’ mood often will reflect yours
For students you could replace it with: coworkers, boss, subordinates, kids, spouse. This is a big deal. Meaning: If I’m irritable and impatient, they are probably going to get uneasy as well. If I’m positive and upbeat, that is usually contagious as well. I’ve had days where my kids read me like a book. They’d say “Are you okay?” “Everything alright” when I was upset or just tired. The other thing I got told was people had no problem putting at risk kids in my room because I always stayed calm. Kids that are irritable need someone who is steady and mellow.
My wife wishes sometimes I would get more excitable, but the truth is, I think we balance each other perfect. Ultimately the point I want to make is this (cliche alert): Is your attitude worth spreading? Is some little event in your day or life being allowed to take over your well being?
Homework Assignment: Assess your mood. Figure out what has caused it today. Solve or put away the things that are irritating (stuff that needs to be done, bad comments through the day) and remember the positives. It probably isn’t that bad, and if it is, get some help or spend some time in prayer.
I played NCAA D2 Baseball. I’ve had a few sport coaches. I’ve had good ones, bad ones, dads, college kids, and moms. I remember most of them. Some motivated with a soda after the game. Some motivated by fear (a former D1 coach who took a team to the College World Series.) I can remember getting cursed out for wrong footwork on a fielding play from pitcher to first.
The best coaches I have ever had expressed their belief in me. They told me what good they saw in me. Some to my face, some in their body language, and some through the yearly preview newspaper article. The moral of the story:
If you want people to perform under or around you, express your positive belief in them. Express open praise to them
Your mission: go out of your way to tell someone you think highly of why you do. Watch them light up.