Accountability and the Fallen Athlete

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It seems every week or so we read or hear a story about a high profile athlete falling from grace. Whether it be Dustin Johnson for undisclosed reasons, Johnny Manziel going into rehab, Josh Hamilton admitting a relapse into drugs, or of course Tiger Woods’ infamous scandal, the hits keep coming.

Each case is as unique as the individual, but ultimately, there is a way to keep out of it. I preach it a lot, and some of these guys are figuring it out: http://www.golf.com/tour-and-news/dustin-johnson-has-new-outlook-his-game-and-his-life

It’s all about being “grounded.” This is a way overused term, but I think it fits well here. When you face incredible scrutiny and receive tons of compensation and fame for what you do, vices will follow. They will trail you like a detective on a tv show. 1 Peter 5:8 has something to say about that.

So, to go with my title, what would I tell them?

I would simply tell them they need to get back to being themselves pre-fame in their activities and lifestyle (to a degree at least). They need to find purpose and have someone willing to hold them accountable and be present in their lives.

I stress it a lot on here, but in the toolbox of helpful ideas, Accountability (daily, hourly, weekly) is one of the most powerful modes of bringing about change.

Often times we just wont call our own bluff. We can lie to ourselves or just suppress feelings and realities. We can tell ourselves we are “under control” or we will “bear down” to beat something. Honestly, we often times don’t have the strength individually.

So, if you are reading this thinking “how am I going to turn the corner?” then think about partnering up with someone. Run through your goals, your hopes, your vices, your struggles, and let them help you tackle them by challenging you.

Living Vibrantly in the Midst of Struggle

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I’ve been off teaching school and coaching. I’ve learned a lot about people (and will continue to do so). One thing that so easily bogs me down is a little adversity. I’m not talking big things, but rather little things. The hospital bill shows up, the tires need changed, the weather is bad, or a parent wasn’t so open to my suggestions on the phone about their child.

If we want to avoid the joy being sucked out of our life, we have to have hope in something greater. We have to believe that there is a greater calling and purpose for every little trial we face. I believe there is, and the whole point is to either point us to Jesus, or to make us more like him.

The Apostle Peter writes about the refiner’s fire, how we will come out a pure metal through struggle. I think it also reminds us we can’t depend on anything or anyone on this Earth to complete us or to fill a gap in our happiness.

Therefore, go ahead and accept the day will have struggles. Instead of choosing to wallow in the mud, instead look for ways these trials will make you more patient, more loving, and more dependent on God. Romans 8:28. Thanks for reading.

For All the Single Ladies (and the Guys who Want to Help Them)

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softball-1170621-hSo, I wrote to the guys last post. This post is for you ladies. Today something profound happened at my high school girl’s softball practice that I didn’t plan for or anticipate.

We were finishing up practice and I asked my assistant coach (a female) if she had anything to add. She told them they needed to have positive self talk. They needed to think about the things they did well. These things needed not to be things they did better than anyone else, but to their own standards. I piggy backed off of that, and this literally just came out of my mouth:

You are better than you think you are, prettier than you think you are, and smarter than you think you are.

I was a little nervous to say it, as their are some pretty messed up teacher/student relationships these days. However, I was met with a chorus of “aww”s! I was blown away. It’s true though.

We are all our own worst critics. I think females especially fall into this trap. I don’t know how many times I get apologized to in a practice for a mistake or an oversight. I tell them “don’t apologize!” You can see the insecurity in their eyes and the way they look around when they come in to a group.

I did have one regret, and it is that I didn’t say this: You are loved more deeply than you will EVER know. This is the greatest and most powerful thing someone can know about themselves. God loved you so much (guys and ladies) that he literally allowed himself to be executed on our behalf.

Girls, take note: you are better than you think you are.

Guys: take note: building up the ladies in your life is vital! It will bring life to their hearts, minds, and souls.

I think I will probably continue to say that everyday to them. They need to know it. It’s just true.