I’ve been off teaching school and coaching. I’ve learned a lot about people (and will continue to do so). One thing that so easily bogs me down is a little adversity. I’m not talking big things, but rather little things. The hospital bill shows up, the tires need changed, the weather is bad, or a parent wasn’t so open to my suggestions on the phone about their child.
If we want to avoid the joy being sucked out of our life, we have to have hope in something greater. We have to believe that there is a greater calling and purpose for every little trial we face. I believe there is, and the whole point is to either point us to Jesus, or to make us more like him.
The Apostle Peter writes about the refiner’s fire, how we will come out a pure metal through struggle. I think it also reminds us we can’t depend on anything or anyone on this Earth to complete us or to fill a gap in our happiness.
Therefore, go ahead and accept the day will have struggles. Instead of choosing to wallow in the mud, instead look for ways these trials will make you more patient, more loving, and more dependent on God. Romans 8:28. Thanks for reading.
Ok. This is written for guys. It also isn’t what you think.
Often times we go into a relationship trying to figure out what they can offer us. Sometimes our purpose in dating or a relationship is to “have fun.”
I will tell you that neither perspective is the right one. When we date to “have fun” all we are really doing is adding baggage and pain to that person as they move on to the next stage of their life. If I thought of my girlfriend as someone else’s daughter or someone else’s wife (until I married them) I know I would treat them with the kind of respect and purity that they should get.
Ultimately, our significant other must be someone we are willing to love. Do they need to be someone who fits every crazy criteria we have? I hope not, because you won’t find them; Sorry for bursting the Hollywood bubble on you.
So, Find someone you like and you are attracted to. Find someone with the same worldview/faith. Then find out if you are willing to sacrifice your time, money, and energy for that person. Then make sure they feel the exact same way. Are you going to be a stubborn fighter for the love you have? If you can answer yes without your heart missing a beat, you’ve found her. It’s that simple.