Why? No. Really.

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Remember that game you would play, or maybe someone plays on you where they just ask “why?” They just kept asking it. Over and over again. It really does beg the questions: Why are you reading this now? Why did you get out of bed this morning? Why do you work where you do? Why did you marry who you did?

Maybe you have a great answer to all of these questions, or maybe it has been awhile since you thought about it. I know I needed to think about it.

Why should I get up in the morning? To serve others, to make a difference, and ultimately to worship God in my daily life. Do i live in that reality? Not enough,

Why do I work where I do? If I couldn’t answer that question I don’t think I could keep doing what I’m doing.

Aristotle said something to the effect of: “the unexamined life isn’t worth living.” If you are going through the motions or taking things for granted, you might ought get off that track. Life is too short and has way too much importance to stay there.

Homework:Use this thought to guide your decision making today. Ask yourself why. Let that bring focus, passion, and intensity to your life.

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My Life would be so much better if…….?

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Most likely you filled in that sentence, or you are doing it now.

  • A fulfilling relationship with someone who “gets” me
  • Financial stability
  • A feeling of fulfillment or purpose at work
  • A career that matches passions and skill-set
  • The ability to prioritize responsibilities and tasks

I can think of a few myself. I often get wrapped up in these things: what’s next, what can I get, who can I beat? What is that really about though? For the rich, there is never enough.

True, ultimate fulfillment only comes from realizing your ultimate purpose in God’s plan.

I also believe tapping into your resources and God-given talents and abilities and using them for the greater good is where you find yourself most happy.

So, I’d love to hear from you…what’s one answer to the title question, and one thing you are gifted or able to do that you can do to serve? Let me know in the comments below!

How to do well with the Ladies

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Ok. This is written for guys. It also isn’t what you think.

Often times we go into a relationship trying to figure out what they can offer us. Sometimes our purpose in dating or a relationship is to “have fun.”

 

I will tell you that neither perspective is the right one. When we date to “have fun” all we are really doing is adding baggage and pain to that person as they move on to the next stage of their life. If I thought of my girlfriend as someone else’s daughter or someone else’s wife (until I married them) I know I would treat them with the kind of respect and purity that they should get.

Ultimately, our significant other must be someone we are willing to love. Do they need to be someone who fits every crazy criteria we have? I hope not, because you won’t find them; Sorry for bursting the Hollywood bubble on you.

So, Find someone you like and you are attracted to. Find someone with the same worldview/faith. Then find out if you are willing to sacrifice your time, money, and energy for that person. Then make sure they feel the exact same way. Are you going to be a stubborn fighter for the love you have? If you can answer yes without your heart missing a beat, you’ve found her. It’s that simple.

 

 

 

 

Why Direction Relates to Joy

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There I was graduating college with a degree in Broadcasting. I really didn’t know what I wanted, other than I knew I wasn’t going to be working in that field. Ironic, wasn’t it? I didn’t want to work the crazy hours for so little pay in events I had no interest in.

As I sat on my rental house’s couch for the next couple weeks (after being deceived into thinking it was a great idea to just hang out for a semester) I watched my bank account drain.

I also felt a tug in my heart to go after something.

I found that life was much more fun with a goal in mind or something to achieve. I really didn’t know what that was though. I stumbled across substitute teaching (because that was the quickest way to employment.) I found out I loved spending my day with the kids, interacting with them and listening to their stories. I had found something I really enjoyed. I actually eagerly looked forward to that call at 6 the next morning that would ask if I could come in and fill in for a teacher.

I found myself up out of bed, motivated to do a good job (which is also fulfilling) and to do it again the next day. I eventually figured out that I wanted to do it full time. So, now I teach. I had goals formed and a direction set and I was able to get to the finish line, all the while seeing things come together to reach it.

Do you have an idea of where you want to end up? Maybe not in a career, but in relationships, in income, in your relationship with God? Let’s hear what you think. Feel free to comment!

Why a life coach?

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Maybe another question would be, why not?

I currently teach High School in the Midwest. I also coach. I have found that I enjoy mentoring and relationships far more than the heavily structured curriculum and strenuous standards I have to constantly meet. I’d much rather make someone’s day than see them get a computer program down pat (not that I would mind either one).

What I really want to do is…..Make a difference. I am a firm believer in finding something to do that you feel passionate about, fits into the “big picture” of your life, and that can be tangibly reached through the proper process and preparation.

The name of my blog has to do with what my pastor is always saying. He says he wants to be “fully alive,” and he won’t take anything less. Jesus said he came to give abundant life. I want that for myself, and I definitely desire that for my clients. As an individual trying to find your niche, you need to ask yourself: What is the point of this? (Purpose), What is my goal and how am I going to get there? (Direction), and Why is this what you want and how do you know you will see it through to the end? (Passion).

I’d love the opportunity to help you out in this journey.