Is it a Good Day, or a Bad One?

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Often times people will say “Man, what a great day!” or “Wow, that was a rough day.” What percentage of those days was a result of something bad happening to them, and what percentage of it was a decision they made when they woke up in the morning.

Life is tough. People are cruel. Things don’t go according to plans. Life isn’t fair…..All true statements. However, what if we decided that today was going to be a good day? What if that was our mission? Could anyone stop us?

I would argue it would be pretty difficult. Sometimes things happen that are going to make for a bad day. That’s a fact. I do think though that you can make a higher percentage of your days positive.

People like to bust out the quote “Life is 10% what you make, and 90% how you take it. What if we decided we were going to have a good day despite our circumstances, the negative co-worker, the memo we received, or the new guidelines that need to be implemented. OR….the inlaws are coming over for Thanksgiving dinner. 🙂

Homework for today (or tomorrow if it is already too late): Be the most positive person you see the entire day. Get plenty of sleep, get up before your alarm and have everything ready to go. Look sharp. Set your mind to conquer….let me know how it turns out.

Bend, but Don’t Break!

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OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAFlexibility. It’s a good thing in athletics. We stretch all the time to prevent injuries from vigorous use of different muscle groups. What can this tell us about how we respond to life’s curveballs?

Allowing our muscles to fully extend allows them greater flexibility and develops a greater range of motion, which leads to enhanced athleticism. From a mental perspective, flexibility is also a great way to prevent injury. The times I’m most frustrated at work or feel the least amount of patience is when a wrench gets thrown into my plans or routine. Life happens. People do silly things. Things come up. The difference between coming out of it with your peace intact is flexibility. If I expect everything to run according to my schedule and on my terms, I’m going to spend much of my life frustrated. However, if I anticipate and expect things to come up to interrupt my life pattern, I’m going to be ready and patient when many people are feeling what I would normally feel.

If we can’t around life’s challenges, we will most certainly break

What gain is there in flexibility? At work I might be the peacemaker. The boss may recognize me as a leader with a level head. This is never a bad thing. In life: If I come home from work after having things thrown my way and reacting to them poorly, likely my wife will have to bear some of that frustration. If I’m flexible, I will come home without that extra baggage.

So today, recognize stuff is going to come up that will be completely out of your control. Just roll with the hurdles the best you can realizing you are just getting more flexible and retaining the peace you want and projecting the calm strength you want others to see in you. Have a great day!

Baggage Fees

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luggage-210049-mOne thing that every grown (and more and more youths) carry is baggage. Maybe it’s from a former relationship or friend; maybe it’s abuse, maybe it’s other family drama. All of these things weigh heavy on us and often times we carry that into our current relationships, our work, and our home lives. This baggage has a much greater fee than American Airlines charges. I can personally remember painful situations from my middle school and high school days. One thing that keeps us holding on to that baggage is neglecting to forgive someone. There is a difference between forgetting and forgiving as well. It doesn’t mean I restore my full trust in that person, either. It means I no longer hold that act against that person.

The thing about not forgiving someone is, it’s like you drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick.

We hold onto our anger, we go there when things don’t go right. We even enjoy the feeling. Ultimately, it’s just holding you back from moving forward. Do yourself a favor and think about people you may be holding a grudge or remain angry towards. Does that person deserve your anger? Maybe they do, and maybe they don’t. Now say a prayer on their behalf. Ask God to make things right and to help that person. I guarantee you will feel better.

What forgiveness does is frees us up to live fully. No grudges, no burning anger; there is just opportunity. Jesus was asked by his disciples how often to forgive. He said not 7 times, not 70 times, but 70 x 7 times. I’m so glad God deals with us better than we deal with each other.

So today, drop that baggage and start living free from that grudge!