For All the Single Ladies (and the Guys who Want to Help Them)

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softball-1170621-hSo, I wrote to the guys last post. This post is for you ladies. Today something profound happened at my high school girl’s softball practice that I didn’t plan for or anticipate.

We were finishing up practice and I asked my assistant coach (a female) if she had anything to add. She told them they needed to have positive self talk. They needed to think about the things they did well. These things needed not to be things they did better than anyone else, but to their own standards. I piggy backed off of that, and this literally just came out of my mouth:

You are better than you think you are, prettier than you think you are, and smarter than you think you are.

I was a little nervous to say it, as their are some pretty messed up teacher/student relationships these days. However, I was met with a chorus of “aww”s! I was blown away. It’s true though.

We are all our own worst critics. I think females especially fall into this trap. I don’t know how many times I get apologized to in a practice for a mistake or an oversight. I tell them “don’t apologize!” You can see the insecurity in their eyes and the way they look around when they come in to a group.

I did have one regret, and it is that I didn’t say this: You are loved more deeply than you will EVER know. This is the greatest and most powerful thing someone can know about themselves. God loved you so much (guys and ladies) that he literally allowed himself to be executed on our behalf.

Girls, take note: you are better than you think you are.

Guys: take note: building up the ladies in your life is vital! It will bring life to their hearts, minds, and souls.

I think I will probably continue to say that everyday to them. They need to know it. It’s just true.

Baggage Fees

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luggage-210049-mOne thing that every grown (and more and more youths) carry is baggage. Maybe it’s from a former relationship or friend; maybe it’s abuse, maybe it’s other family drama. All of these things weigh heavy on us and often times we carry that into our current relationships, our work, and our home lives. This baggage has a much greater fee than American Airlines charges. I can personally remember painful situations from my middle school and high school days. One thing that keeps us holding on to that baggage is neglecting to forgive someone. There is a difference between forgetting and forgiving as well. It doesn’t mean I restore my full trust in that person, either. It means I no longer hold that act against that person.

The thing about not forgiving someone is, it’s like you drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick.

We hold onto our anger, we go there when things don’t go right. We even enjoy the feeling. Ultimately, it’s just holding you back from moving forward. Do yourself a favor and think about people you may be holding a grudge or remain angry towards. Does that person deserve your anger? Maybe they do, and maybe they don’t. Now say a prayer on their behalf. Ask God to make things right and to help that person. I guarantee you will feel better.

What forgiveness does is frees us up to live fully. No grudges, no burning anger; there is just opportunity. Jesus was asked by his disciples how often to forgive. He said not 7 times, not 70 times, but 70 x 7 times. I’m so glad God deals with us better than we deal with each other.

So today, drop that baggage and start living free from that grudge!