Ok. This is written for guys. It also isn’t what you think.
Often times we go into a relationship trying to figure out what they can offer us. Sometimes our purpose in dating or a relationship is to “have fun.”
I will tell you that neither perspective is the right one. When we date to “have fun” all we are really doing is adding baggage and pain to that person as they move on to the next stage of their life. If I thought of my girlfriend as someone else’s daughter or someone else’s wife (until I married them) I know I would treat them with the kind of respect and purity that they should get.
Ultimately, our significant other must be someone we are willing to love. Do they need to be someone who fits every crazy criteria we have? I hope not, because you won’t find them; Sorry for bursting the Hollywood bubble on you.
So, Find someone you like and you are attracted to. Find someone with the same worldview/faith. Then find out if you are willing to sacrifice your time, money, and energy for that person. Then make sure they feel the exact same way. Are you going to be a stubborn fighter for the love you have? If you can answer yes without your heart missing a beat, you’ve found her. It’s that simple.